Fight the school everyday, getting by and coping is not enough for our children, it takes every piece of their strength to understand the social skills and school rules and what is approprate behavour. That when our children get home we have to deal with the fallout, whether that is mood swings, being catonic, anger and frustrations. Get in touch with SN IP (special needs involving parents) to help with meetings with teachers and sencos, the school or family services should tell you who to contact for this service, these people work for YOU, not the school, they are there for your voice , your child. You can also ask for statutory assessment, and involvement of IPS., Good luck not take no for answer!!